Accept and welcome change

I am sure many of us have experienced dramatic changes in our lives in one way or another. Some changes, or new circumstances, may have been melodramatic whilst others may possibly have been dull or lifeless.

Either way, we face many changes in our lives, whether we like it or not and whether we like the changes or not. Change, as time goes by, is inevitable and predestined to happen. We can either adapt to it and benefit from it or we can ignore it and get left behind.

I once had a 65 year old lady as a client who felt it was time to expand her designer knitwear business. She had been selling her items at exhibitions, in galleries, through the classified sections in the newspapers and magazines.

“I now have to accept that the Internet is the way to progress and expand my business,” she explained. “I understand and admit that the Internet is a worldwide marketing tool that I can no longer ignore.”

She came to see me because she was ‘scared’ of computers. She believed that she lacked the courage and confidence to enter into the complex and unfamiliar world of ‘click here and click there’ as she humorously put it.

We spent the next few sessions gradually tackling her confidence. She slowly ventured out of her comfort zone by doing a couple of daily tasks designed to familiarise her with the computer. Within a short span, she was able to send emails, search the web and even write blogs.

For you to accept and incorporate change, consider one adjustment or modification in any area of your life that you are resisting that you may transform to improve your life.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/ - Life Coach London

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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Top Five Mistakes Managers Make and How to Avoid Them

Managers play the role of business coaches by leading and directing the professional lives of their teams. They assist their employees in gaining self confidence, efficiency and satisfaction. Managers can help sort out work obstacles and career problems. However for some, keeping their team motivated, aligned and optimistic can be very challenging.

Often managers find it difficult to retain a long-term outlook and prove incapable of leading a team efficiently in hard times. They can make mistakes fatal to the business and life of their company. Some such mistakes are discussed below and a few simple tips are provided to help avoid them.

Tip 1: Insufficient communication: Lack of communication with the employees and irregular updates on the state of affairs keep the managers ignorant of and unable to define problems. Sufficient and regular communication with the team must be observed. The employees should be updated on necessary information just as the managers should be kept informed.

Tip 2: Changing goal posts: Shifting goal posts too frequently can cause bigger problems than initially appears. It makes a team lose focus, therefore, it is better to define targets properly and lead the team consistently towards them. Policies may be changed after careful consideration of their long term implications.

Tip 3: Eliminating employee training and customer services: In hard times managers make a mistake by eliminating employee training to cut out expenses. Absence of proper communication and training shifts the focus of employees from positive to negative. Customer services and amenities are also targeted in cost cutting measures. This might create a backlash of customer dissatisfaction. Managers can improve systems and processes to prevent inefficiencies instead of eliminating employee training and customer services.

Tip 4: Not realising the needs of the team: Efficient managers understand the needs and concerns of their employees and plan ahead according to their capabilities.

Tip 5: Not taking responsibility: Managers are accountable for failure or success and shying away from taking responsibility might damage the credibility. Therefore, it is better to admit one’s mistakes and take responsibility.

Avoiding these mistakes can make managers coach their teams better for higher efficiency, thereby generating greater job satisfaction, which makes employees gain happiness and brings greater success.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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It doesn’t have to be OK

In a recent coaching session my client was worrying about a move she had just made and the disruption it brought to her life. What with getting used to her new environment, the new people she was dealing with each day and other changes.

When suddenly she stopped, sat back and light-heartedly said: “It’s OK that things might not be OK in the beginning.”

With that approach we can manage changes in our lives with greater ease.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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Top Five Mistakes CEOs Make and How to Avoid Them

CEOs aim at implementing fresh programmes that can help improve the management of their organisation effectively. Their role as business coaches signifies strong leadership and promotion of fertile developmental programmes. They are responsible to ensure effectiveness and positive output in their areas of influence.

CEOs can bring important changes in the management of an organisation to compliment the implementation of new processes. They too, like other business employees can make mistakes that can have adverse effects on the progress of their organisations. Here are some of typical mistakes and tips on how to avoid them.

Tip 1: Making poor management decisions: Unwise, quick decisions by a CEO can ruin their career and affect their organisation vitally. Such decisions are a sign of inability to understand the existing situation and the needs of an organisation. CEOs are expected to weigh the possibilities according to core issues and make effective decisions. Therefore they need to be careful.

Tip 2: Inaccurate judgement of potential: A CEOs inability to judge people’s character and potential can be a great threat to the future of an organisation. CEOs must be very careful while evaluating the true career potential. They must adopt a rigorous process of interviewing and evaluating employees.

Tip 3: Being over confident: Another big mistake can be not taking advice. An exceedingly self-reliant and independent CEO might not be aware of his own weaknesses. He might not provide constructive feedback on employee performance. Wise CEOs often work regularly with mentors or business coaches to advise or guide them and have honest and open discussions in a safe and confidential environment.

Tip 4: Letting go of opportunities: Not hunting opportunities can be a vital mistake. Good CEOs do not only react to problems they put valuable efforts in targeting profitable opportunities to meet performance aims.

Tip 5: Non-strategic planning: A company’s development and progress depends on strategic planning. Poor planning and ambiguous work strategies can affect an organisation’s chances of progress quite negatively. Efficient CEOs define their organisation’s future clearly and plan effective operations.

CEOs can make a big difference in the progress rate of their company by avoiding these mistakes. Those who chose to work with a business coach find that the challenging yet supportive set-up gives them an opportunity to think outside the box, which often proves to be a useful exercise in the long term.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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The wonky boomerang

How many times have you noticed that when you really want something and put lots of effort in one direction, something strange happens – you get what you want but from somewhere totally different.

This happens to me so often, I absolutely believe that if you invest lots of energy in one direction, you will get a result. Just be open to the possibility that the result may simply come from somewhere that you never imagined or expected.

My favourite example of this is with getting new clients, we all want new clients at certain times in our business cycle (OK, OK at ALL times in our business cycle!!), and we often rack our brains thinking what should we do differently.

My philosophy is do what you already know how, just do more of it.

Be clear what your goals and intentions are, and remember above all else to keep your eyes and ears open.

Opportunities and business will come to you, just not always from the place you’ve been investing. But who cares where it comes from, as long as it’s what you want and what you need!!

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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Top Five Mistakes Boyfriends Make and How to Avoid Them

Often guys make careless blunders in relationships, causing a break up. Some boyfriends need coaching from their more experienced friends or even an external life coach, who can help them to learn to handle themselves and therefore their relationships better.

With a little care and prudence boys can handle their relationships with much more tact. Here are some mistakes that boyfriends make and some tips on how to avoid them.

Tip 1: Not having common interests: It is important to share things that both you and your girlfriend like to do for a stable and long lasting relationship. Common interests can increase mutual understanding and the fun time together. It will reduce the risk of boredom. Boyfriends should try to find what their girlfriends like and try to take interest in them.

Tip 2: Discussing the past: Another big blunder often made by boyfriends is talking about their past relationships with their current girlfriends. Girls do not like knowing about the ex-girlfriends of their boyfriends. It is therefore better to forget the past and build your relationship on fresh grounds.

Tip 3: Showing impoliteness towards her friends: Girls like boyfriends if they are nice with their friends. Being rude gives negative vibes and can make a bad impression, so boys have to be very careful.

Tip 4: Forgetting your commitments: It is important to honour commitments made to one’s girlfriend. Not keeping your word might cause your girlfriend to lose interest and trust. Therefore always think before you commit to meet her somewhere or take her out.

Tip 5: Counting your possessions: Boyfriends bore their girlfriends a lot when they brag about what they have. It makes them look conceited and foolish. Instead of showing off about their belongings or wealth boys can improve their position by responsible behaviour and so proving how different they are from the other guys.

Boyfriends can foster healthy relationships by avoiding these mistakes. In a relationship a positive attitude, care and understanding can bring a lot of happiness.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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Re-package the Pain

When my client used this phrase the other day, I thought it was so great I asked him if it would be OK to share it in a blog.

Just like many of us, there’s often some not-so-desirable administration work to do. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about.

If we are able to re-package the pain of those tasks into a smaller area of our world, in our minds eye we can reframe it as small, achievable and therefore do-able.

The best part of this is that when we regularly complete those mundane yet necessary tasks, and can ‘tick them off’ our to-do list, we feel better and happier, and generally more confident.

Tell me about those ‘painful’ tasks you’d like to re-package.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

Top Five Mistakes Girlfriends Make and How to Avoid Them

There are more single girls than single guys. These girls are charming, eligible and are pursuing careers but one reason behind their remaining single can be the mistakes girls so often make in a relationship.

Here are some mistakes single girls make in the beginning of a relationship and some useful tips on how to avoid them.

Tip 1: Being too demanding and negative: Boys do not like spending time with girls who are demanding, negative and not pleasant in their relationship. Therefore, girls should not make too many demands and aim to cultivate a positive attitude so that they can have longer and happier relationships with their boyfriends.

Tip 2: Trying to look what they are not: Often girls make a blunder in their efforts to look more appealing and sexy than they actually are. Sometimes this takes away their natural grace and makes them look artificial. Girls should dress up nicely so that they feel they are looking good. They way girls carry themselves is also an expression of their confidence. They will attract more attention and look even more charming if they look naturally graceful.

Tip 3: Seeking advice from immature and inexperienced friends: If girls take frequent advice from their friends and act them out they might create problems for themselves. Other girls may have more experience with guys but each relationship is different requiring a unique approach. Friends cannot coach their friends in a relationship because often there’s either an agenda or advice is marred by negative past experiences.

Tip 4: Inability to make nice talk: Girls who talk about boring topics may lose their boyfriends. It is very important to know your boyfriend’s interests to be able to have a two way communication with him and keep the relationship alive.

Tip 5: Having eyes on other guys: While you are with your boyfriend try to appreciate whatever he does for you and do not hit on other guys. This will ruin your relationship and who knows the second guy might not be as good as your present boyfriend.

Girls can increase their chances of happiness in a relationship with their boyfriends by avoiding these mistakes. A healthy relationship can boost their self-confidence.

Sometimes, unintentionally the behaviour girls display is linked to a lack of confidence, and this produces exactly the opposite outcome to the one desired. If this is the case, and only if it is possible, seeking the help of someone who is independent, such as a life coach, can help girls feel better within themselves and therefore, have better life experiences with their chosen boyfriends.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.

Tips to Stay Focused on Success Even With Life Setbacks

Most of us have met failure at some point in life: in business, examinations, relationships or achieving goals. Joshua J. Marine, the famous philosopher once said, “Challenges are what makes life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” View setbacks in life as challenges to overcome in order to achieve success.

Being confident and taking positive steps to overcome setbacks is the way forward to success. In this article we look at examples of lives of great people we admire and it gives us inspiration to get up and take action, no matter how many times we stumble and fall.

Here are five tips that experts in confidence coaching give on what we can do in times of adversity to stay on the path to success:

1. Keep your vision and purpose constantly before you, and setbacks will only seem like tiny bumps on the way to success. The “trick” is to always have well defined and written down personal vision and goals to hand and revisit them regularly.

2. It is best to avoid people who try to discourage you and spread negativity; it helps to associate with optimistic and positive thinking people who encourage you and will give you the confidence to handle adversity with courage.

3. While planning for success in your career or life, think of the possible obstructions that could come your way and hinder your actions. This could help you be prepared and think through alternative plans to work your way around the obstacles.

4. Analyzing a temporary failure brings out the things that could have been missed out in the previous plan. Then you can go for another try with a new and improved plan.

5. Learning the worst thing that happened and the best thing you can make happen from the setback would make you stronger and better than your earlier self.

Confidence coaching experts say that failure doesn’t mean you should quit or that you are not good enough; it simply means you haven’t found the right method or opportunity yet. Setbacks, adversity and being stuck in situations are steps on the ladder to success.

Abraham Lincoln’s mother died when he was nine and his general store in Illinois failed. Ann Rutledge, the girl he loved, died. He failed in his first attempt to enter the Illinois state legislature. In two different election years, he failed to reach the senate and did not get enough party votes for nomination for the post of Vice-President. Finally, he was elected President of the United States in 1860 and in 1864.

Edison made some 8,000 attempts before he invented the light bulb. Later he is said to have remarked “At least we know 8,000 ways how not to make a light bulb.”

These are great examples of the attitude a person on the road to success can practice and learn.

Recently tennis star Andy Murray lost to Mardy Fish in the quarter finals of the Cincinnati Masters. He was suffering from a severe knee problem, and struggled through the match as the temperature reached 34 degrees Celsius. The thought of giving up crossed his mind many times, but he fought on despite the adverse and unbearable circumstances. He did not lose hope; instead he remained focused and confident for the US open and become an inspiration for others.

Failure itself carries within it the seeds of success but only if we have the confidence to stand up and resume the race. We learn more from failures than from successes. The only time we actually fail is when we accept failure!

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

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Relationships: You’re Not the Only One

Both men and women come to me with various relationship questions.  This week the issue was that my client was unsure how much longer she should wait for her boyfriend to propose.  It was something she had discussed with him regularly in the past year.  He said he wanted to marry her, but he wasn’t ready yet.

Having worked out what she loved about him and why she wanted to be with him, she was also very clear that she wanted to stay with him and wasn’t willing to take the risk of an ultimatum and him possibly walking away.  She had spent a lot of time obsessing about this, both on her own and with her friends, and was pressurising the boyfriend daily.  But it was only when she said this out loud that she realised how difficult this might be for him as well as for her.

This new awareness brought about a decision: she would take her foot off the pedal, enjoy the relationship and re-assess the situation at a later stage.

Talking through your thoughts and dilemmas in a completely non-judgemental space can often be very helpful.

Both men and women come to me with various relationship questions.  This week the issue was that my client was unsure how much longer she should wait for her boyfriend to propose.  It was something she had discussed with him regularly in the past year.  He said he wanted to marry her, but he wasn’t ready yet.

Having worked out what she loved about him and why she wanted to be with him, she was also very clear that she wanted to stay with him and wasn’t willing to take the risk of an ultimatum and him possibly walking away.  She had spent a lot of time obsessing about this, both on her own and with her friends, and was pressurising the boyfriend daily.  But it was only when she said this out loud that she realised how difficult this might be for him as well as for her.

This new awareness brought about a decision: she would take her foot off the pedal, enjoy the relationship and re-assess the situation at a later stage.

Having worked out what she loved about him and why she wanted to be with him, she was also very clear that she wanted to stay with him and wasn’t willing to take the risk of an ultimatum and him possibly walking away.  She had spent a lot of time obsessing about this, both on her own and with her friends, and was pressurising the boyfriend daily.  But it was only when she said this out loud that she realised how difficult this might be for him as well as for her.This new awareness brought about a decision: she would take her foot off the pedal, enjoy the relationship and re-assess the situation at a later stage.Talking through your thoughts and dilemmas in a completely non-judgemental space can often be very helpful.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

http://www.natalie-dee.com/

London Life Coach & Business Coach, London UK
Certified High Performance Coach & Master NLP Practitioner

Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK, applying techniques such as  NLP, EFT and Hypnotherapy to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career.  Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

Self-Confidence Building
in 7 Steps

Do you want to learn how to have the self-confidence to lead a more fulfilling life? Be sure to read the tell-all guide Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps to rocket your self-confidence and self-esteem to achieve all that you want.